tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8489237810886177584.post1764330393687279001..comments2024-01-06T05:44:45.740-08:00Comments on The Secondhand Years: I was looking for a job and then I found a job....Curtisehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10362184504889147455noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8489237810886177584.post-17759463603718818452012-04-03T03:49:52.399-07:002012-04-03T03:49:52.399-07:00Oh the cheongsam is just gorgeous!! I would sew d...Oh the cheongsam is just gorgeous!! I would sew darts on each side of the back of your new frock, then you don't need to take the zip out! The 80s frock is gonna FLY out of your eBay store!!! Oh hon, such a dilemma and I've been there myself. Do NOT beat yourself over this, it's just not worth it - the GP surgery job that won't cover the financial and emotional cost of caring for a young family is guaranteed to make you feel ... not good. I've been thinking about how incredibly involved you are with the kids' schooling and how much people must rely on Curtise the Fabulous to get the job at hand done beautifully:)). Big hugs to you hon, Desiree xoxoxoxoxoPull Your Socks Up!https://www.blogger.com/profile/14147274267016718793noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8489237810886177584.post-6053330520071661822012-03-31T21:28:44.585-07:002012-03-31T21:28:44.585-07:00I know my Mum faced the same problem when she was ...I know my Mum faced the same problem when she was trying to get back into the workforce after having me & my brother. I love all these frocks, but especially that last one you've got for listing on ebay. Those shoulders!Staceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07395668352640656250noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8489237810886177584.post-58858807008682222252012-03-31T07:49:45.762-07:002012-03-31T07:49:45.762-07:00So many of my girlfriends struggle with child are ...So many of my girlfriends struggle with child are cost vs. what you actually make, it's tough! Moms have the toughest but most important job in the world and don't let anyone make you feel otherwise ever! What's your eBay store? <br />You found some lovely stuff here and hot dam that japanese number needs to be fixed because it's hot on you!<br /><br />I love you sweetie!<br />KristaKristahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00350442910321860733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8489237810886177584.post-53431633993078118532012-03-31T07:31:00.075-07:002012-03-31T07:31:00.075-07:00wow!!! I'm falling in love with the last dress...wow!!! I'm falling in love with the last dress, the black one with colred applications!!The Pink Flamingohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12810130529858956911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8489237810886177584.post-34085642898614755602012-03-30T17:09:27.552-07:002012-03-30T17:09:27.552-07:00It's a shame you can't take that job, but ...It's a shame you can't take that job, but there will be others. Enjoy spending time with the kids now, I am sure they appreciate having mum at home.<br /><br />I love that 80's tastic frock!Treeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07319274204951528344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8489237810886177584.post-70682039804548167742012-03-29T03:27:51.146-07:002012-03-29T03:27:51.146-07:00I think you have made the right choice! if there&#...I think you have made the right choice! if there's no money in it you may as well enjoy your time with the kiddy winks and revisit the idea of work when they are older. on to the fun stuff now, that's a gorgeous frock you always rock the maxis!! xxxVintage Sweethearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12728686944000053469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8489237810886177584.post-77439884520729982912012-03-28T17:07:38.876-07:002012-03-28T17:07:38.876-07:00First of all, love your two dresses at the top--es...First of all, love your two dresses at the top--especially the floral one! <br /><br />Yes, there's a great allure for a woman to have her VERY OWN spending money, and that wonderful sense of independence, and that wonderful feeling of being truly vital in everyone else's eyes, and our own...which is stupid, because our "job" at home is a damn important one anyway<br /><br />but,<br />such is the way of the ego. <br /><br />I was at a wedding with The Man and some work colleagues a few years ago, and one of the women actually dumbed down the conversation to some housewifery related things for me. It was subtle, but I noticed it. <br /><br />And you are very welcome for ba-bongos, and all the other stupid words I concoct.<br /><br />xoxokarensomethingorotherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14476544335741075497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8489237810886177584.post-5422847214432096072012-03-28T16:38:47.809-07:002012-03-28T16:38:47.809-07:00Hi Curtise,
Shame about the job but like you sai...Hi Curtise, <br /><br />Shame about the job but like you said you will be working for next to nothing plus the stress of it all. I know in our world, staying home mothers are not seen as productive individuals, i think it is crap! You probably work harder than me at the end of the day. <br />Do not feel bad, you are doing the best job in the world taking of your family, i would trade place with you any day i tell you!<br />Volunteer work is great, it will pay off! <br /><br />About taking pics outside, tell the neighbors you are an international blogger! People all over the world can not wait to see what you wear!<br /><br />But i know i feel funny sometimes, but after 5 seconds i do not give a damm...they can think whatever they want...like Helga says it is all about me!<br /><br />Lots of love<br /><br />Ariane xxxxxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02362016707885334020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8489237810886177584.post-75603384445649910192012-03-28T12:36:41.129-07:002012-03-28T12:36:41.129-07:00It'd be crap working at the doctor's surge...It'd be crap working at the doctor's surgery. All doctor's receptionists are grumpy. You're too cool for such a job. You should have a shop or something. Looking after children is no longer seen as commendable because so many people are crap at it. Your children so obviously mean the world to you, and will turn out well-rounded, confident and successful, They can pay you back for the years you didn't work when they're older and have careers!<br />Having a job always seems like a good thing when you haven't got one, doesn't it? And when you're working, staying home is such a desirable option.<br />Keep making us smile with your posts, and wow us with your beautiful clothes, that's your job!lucy joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04863146546863419637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8489237810886177584.post-34914890468309819002012-03-28T09:59:43.132-07:002012-03-28T09:59:43.132-07:00for totally different reasons find it hard to answ...for totally different reasons find it hard to answer the question of what do you do, but I've decided to make up fanciful titles that make people jealous and then list all my duties if they ask and i feel inclined to share. you should totally try it!<br /><br />- PRADA SUNNIES GIVEAWAY -<br />- PRADA SUNNIES GIVEAWAY -<br /><br />Sunnie<br />(.=Bespoke Biddiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06740019477485498393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8489237810886177584.post-19044893830109203722012-03-28T09:59:41.480-07:002012-03-28T09:59:41.480-07:00for totally different reasons find it hard to answ...for totally different reasons find it hard to answer the question of what do you do, but I've decided to make up fanciful titles that make people jealous and then list all my duties if they ask and i feel inclined to share. you should totally try it!<br /><br />- PRADA SUNNIES GIVEAWAY -<br />- PRADA SUNNIES GIVEAWAY -<br /><br />Sunnie<br />(.=Bespoke Biddiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06740019477485498393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8489237810886177584.post-45013593935012384802012-03-28T06:54:13.912-07:002012-03-28T06:54:13.912-07:00I have a couple of friends who are Moms and have t...I have a couple of friends who are Moms and have the same dilemma--unless you can find a job that pays well enough to have some left over after childcare, it's just not worth it. It's terrible that society doesn't regard "stay at home" moms as having a job, just as important and as stressful (sometimes more so)as those of us who do the 9 - 5 thing. You should be damn proud of the work you do raising your offspring as well as volunteering, etc. I couldn't do it, which is why I chose not to. It must have been a nice boost to the esteem to have been offered the job though--congrats!<br /><br />Love the Cheongsam, but as I'm not a sewer I'll leave the alteration advice to those in the know. I'm kinda crushing on the black dress with the rainbow shoulder puffs...Forest City Fashionistahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04428940427287921203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8489237810886177584.post-6943706860257635462012-03-28T06:38:08.516-07:002012-03-28T06:38:08.516-07:00Congrats on your offer of employment Curtise, I ca...Congrats on your offer of employment Curtise, I can understand why you feel frustrated about it,I have heard this time and again from friends. In my opinion what could be better for your children than being at home for them. (hope that does not make me sound like a tree-hugging god-botherer!) You are much too nice to be a Dr's receptionist anyway, ours are into interrogation! My advice would be to stick with ebaying and those rude people who think less of you because you don't work aren't worth knowing anyway. (I hate the questions 'what does your husband do?' and 'have you got kids?' (I must be a freak not to have either, right?) <br />Love love love your Suzy Wong dress, it looks fab on you, you must alter it. xxxxxxxxFionahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11809277044939851200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8489237810886177584.post-7345176909217869532012-03-28T05:45:01.139-07:002012-03-28T05:45:01.139-07:00Congratulations Dear Curtise for the job offer, I ...Congratulations Dear Curtise for the job offer, I agree with Vix it is a great ego boost...I am 40 years old and the company where I have worked until last year (been there 9 years)fired me to replace me with a much younger woman with no children and an apprentice contract (ie in Italy it translates into 300 euros per month); <br />It's good you live in a country where women who have been away from work for some years are given a chance to make a come back even though the pay is low..here in Italy no one would want to hire a 40 something who's been away for some due to child care, unless she is a manager of some kind or an electronics engineer..it is really a shame how mothers in Italy are marginalized, and if you are lucky to get a job the costs of childcare are exhorbitant (650 euros a month) if you don't live in the typical Italian situation with the mother in law next door (very suffocating for most...)You can't imagine how much I understand you, every day people ask me and now, what do you do? It gets so much to my nerves that people just can't mind their own business because they don't ask out of concern but because here schadenfreude is a very popular attitude...be patient anyway you will see in a couple of years probably you will get other offers..btw GP receptionist here is a very coveted job, they don't take samples because tests are only made in hospitals, they just take appointments and write prescriptions..the patients are in total awe of them because they have total control of the GP agenda...you should see on christmas they are heaped with the presents, because you never know they might put a good word for you....lovesjetlaghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13518208019968939386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8489237810886177584.post-7113313573968309782012-03-28T05:38:51.334-07:002012-03-28T05:38:51.334-07:00Its so hard being a mummy sometimes and no matter ...Its so hard being a mummy sometimes and no matter what anyone says its a job that never ends and has no finish. You do so much and sadly no we don't get paid for it. I was a single mum for 6 years and my youngest was only 4 at the time i used to work 2 nights a week and leave the boys with my neignbour over night and i used to pay her a little money i had no family here and couldn't afford to pay childcare during the day. I hated it though and i managed to get a job in the local College and then a school which has been amazing an allows you the holidays off paid with the children i couldn't manage without a term time contract. But don't feel bad something will come up and in the mean time sell on ebay and enjoy your time with the little ones because it really does go so quickly. Love your dresses i would undo it at the back and remove the zip and take it in that way it really isn't that difficult you might be suprised ;-)) dee xxxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01807783495138462705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8489237810886177584.post-27007779788770373122012-03-28T01:40:59.176-07:002012-03-28T01:40:59.176-07:00I love your dresses and I'm totallt jealouse o...I love your dresses and I'm totallt jealouse of the cheongsam. Why don't you remove the zip, take it in both sides and then re-insert the zip. <br /><br />It's a shame about the job, but you can't do something that's going to make you worse off. If anyone asks your job, well you're a full time mother, isn't that a great job anyway? XxLouise Mchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14858832660475944060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8489237810886177584.post-45724429519205221152012-03-28T00:47:51.488-07:002012-03-28T00:47:51.488-07:00You look gorgeous in those dresses and I agree, it...You look gorgeous in those dresses and I agree, it's such a shame about the job, it's something that is being seen time and again, childcare is just too high and then you get that question from people .. like what you're doing isn't enough and you should do more and be poor from the privilege.<br /><br />xxxMelaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12238571735302117986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8489237810886177584.post-67117262773314021682012-03-27T21:22:11.331-07:002012-03-27T21:22:11.331-07:00Love the maxi dress it is divine. As for the Chin...Love the maxi dress it is divine. As for the Chinese one, I agree with comments about darts, in the front and the back.Penny-Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03705614681640986769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8489237810886177584.post-67383272296087523562012-03-27T20:43:29.635-07:002012-03-27T20:43:29.635-07:00Sorry about the job situation - I know Annabel'...Sorry about the job situation - I know Annabel's day care is about $100 a day and since you have three kids (and I presume you would need private care, since the older ones wouldn't be able to go to day care) I can only imagine how prohibitive the costs would be. <br /><br />You look absolutely gorgeous in that first maxi - I LOVE the colours and the necklace is beautiful too - I have zero idea about the cheongsam, and anyway my sewing machine is still stuck in reverse, so I am the wrong person to ask about anything sewing related. <br /><br />As for taking pics in front of people - I don't much care what people think - I just smile and wave and keep doing what I'm doing! <br /><br />Love! Sarah xxxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16235255775524330362noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8489237810886177584.post-1260603956098949572012-03-27T20:36:01.413-07:002012-03-27T20:36:01.413-07:00I love that swishy maxi frock. Such fabulous fabri...I love that swishy maxi frock. Such fabulous fabric. Don't you just hate the "What do you do" question? I'm unable to work due to my chronic illness & that is a question I dread. How can I explain all that I do do, but because it's not paid work it doesn't seem to count to some people. I think being there when your kids are still young is far more important then earning some extra money, if you can afford it. But at least you know you are employable! XxVintage Bird Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12391080285073918532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8489237810886177584.post-49414462561271647052012-03-27T20:12:36.187-07:002012-03-27T20:12:36.187-07:00Afterthought: I did not work for many years becau...Afterthought: I did not work for many years because of my children. I tried, just as you have been tempted, but eventually gave it up as the children were always sick...from being in daycare.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8489237810886177584.post-81737745574722133232012-03-27T20:11:39.509-07:002012-03-27T20:11:39.509-07:00oh, oh, oh, how much would the dress and the shipp...oh, oh, oh, how much would the dress and the shipping be on that dress? I'm smack dab in the middle of the USA.<br /><br />Can't help with the alterations to the Cheongsam.<br /><br />As for nosy neighbors, tell them you're taking pics for the your eBay store.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8489237810886177584.post-51655587050161156432012-03-27T19:40:24.420-07:002012-03-27T19:40:24.420-07:00Congrats on the job offer in itself. Now onwards a...Congrats on the job offer in itself. Now onwards and upwards. Being a mum is valid in itself. If someone asks What do you do?, the obvious answer would be What don't I do?! <br /><br />For pics, hide your camera and tripod in the bushes, get yourself a remote shutter release, go out gardening in your beautiful frocks, and every once in a while, strike a pose and snap! That will get the neighbours' interest - hopefully they'll all start wearing dresses while they garden too, and striking poses at random! <br /><br />I looove your cheongsam! Here's what you do: You sew 2 little darts in the front and 2 in the back, or just 2 in the back if you can get away with it. It's not very hard and I don't think it will mess up your fabric pattern. Will that work? You must wear this incredible piece!Melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06218727738029858422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8489237810886177584.post-27409937754758273112012-03-27T19:25:20.096-07:002012-03-27T19:25:20.096-07:00Darl I'd give you any kind of sample in that d...Darl I'd give you any kind of sample in that dress, LOL!!<br />But seriously, childcare fees must be hideous there- isn't it government subsidised for christs sake?!<br />Here we pay $20 a day for an 11-hour day, thats less than 15 pounds.Kittyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03565814556356447975noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8489237810886177584.post-66648207568263783902012-03-27T15:39:03.712-07:002012-03-27T15:39:03.712-07:00Oh man, this post pushes my buttons. My mom was a ...Oh man, this post pushes my buttons. My mom was a stay-at-home mom and she got a lot of crap for it. I'm not a mom, but if I become one, I might want to be a stay-at-home mom. And when people (hypothetically in the future) ask me what I do? I take care of kids! It's a lot of work! It's a valid way to spend your time! That is all.his_girl_fridayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15478394514503451317noreply@blogger.com